Choices!
03/15/07 14:54
In every
moment we make choices. Some of the choices
...
In
every moment we make choices. Some of the choices are
huge while most of our choices a minor. For example:
we make choices whether or not to have coffee in the
morning; which way to go to work, and we make choices
with a bit of significance. Most of our choices are
driven by the unconscious mind. We are driven to
choose certain things because “society” expects them
of us, or our family might not approve of us or it’s
just a learned behavior with no reasoning for it.
Sometimes when we choose things we ought or should to
choose, such as to exercise more, to eat better, to
quit smoking etc.; we wonder why these behaviors
don’t stick and we are frustratingly unable to follow
through with them. We have to find and let go of the
unconscious beliefs that direct our poor choices
before we can recreate a new set of beliefs and
choices upon which to act upon. The bright side is we
have the ability to un-root these unconscious
behaviors, and create the life we want to live.
Let’s start with looking at the function of the unconscious mind on our actions. Scientists are now finding that at the moment we are conceived our environment is programming us. The absorption of everything in our environment allows us to adapt to our families, and the community that surrounds us as youth. As children we process all this information without a mechanism that allows us to say NO to any information. In essence, we absorb everything around us and we do not have the ability to filter put what we do not want. This information comes in and we have no decision in the matter. This is how we agree to allow our families issues to become hereditary. There used to be a huge controversy in child development about Nature vs. Nurture, and how each one affects us in our lives. But now researchers are beginning to find that our DNA and RNA offer us the gambit of experiences, and it is our mental choices that activate whether or not we get the heart disease our family has suffered for generations, or have the life of abundance that our parents so desperately wanted.
Choice is our ax, and it allows us to eliminate these beliefs. Some of these beliefs are rooted, and some a simple decision will change. We can use techniques like Neuro- Lingustic Programming (NLP) to get the rooted decisions out, or other techniques like Network Spinal Analysis (NSA). There are many other techniques that will work also, but I must state that there are also unconscious decisions that we make.
Let me describe some unconscious beliefs, just so you can get the idea. Say you struggle with money, and you think you have tried everything. This may have come to you as a child. Your parents told you that they didn’t have the money to get the thing you want or they didn’t want to spoil you. So you internalize this message, and as an adult you generalize this message into every part of your life. So you job doesn’t pay enough, and you don’t have enough money for all your bills. Just as Jack Canfield says it’s just “So what,” there is nobody to blame not your parents or yourself or anything. You just have to resolve your concern by making a new decision. Sometimes you need help to get through these changes and making the new decision work for you, but it will definitely be fruitful if you do.
As for the choices that drive our need to be somebody or do something special, we don’t need to do anything. Don’t take this the wrong way, what I mean is that most of us are working jobs that we know are killing us one day at a time, or we go out and pay $130,000 for an education that we will never use. Why do we do this? My answer is that we are asleep to what it is that drives our passion (but not really). You know what it is that you would love to do. My question is why are you not doing it? Is it because you wont have enough money to live if you do, or will your family and friends no longer accept you if you do it? The truth is you don’t or can’t know if you would make enough money, or your family and friends will accept you. I can tell you that when you make the choices that serve you, and not some erroneous zone driven choice that doesn’t serve you, you begin to experience flow.
There are millions of people who are guided by what they think they are supposed to do, and not by what they want to do. Even if you have a family and you think they might be jeopardized by your decisions, then you need to discuss your discomfort with them and make the choices accordingly. Let me say this also it might be noble to stay somewhere you are completely dissatisfied to support your family, but it not fair to them when you create sickness in your life and potentially have to leave the planet. It would be better for you to be happy and broke, than to be completely miserable and unable to enjoy the family you created.
Therefore, take your power back, and live your life, not the one you think you are supposed to live. There is no way now to say I don’t know or what if I fail then fail and do it again differently. How in the world can you find your peace when you are pandering to the stories of what should be, and not what you want. It’s time to make choices today, and see how they affect your future. Look at each potential choice and ask yourself how it contributes to your happiness and goals in that moment. If your choices make you happy today, chances are they will bring more happiness in your future.
I just received a message that I now need to convey. Some of you are thinking that this is pretty self-serving to choose what would make you happy, but I would say that there is a huge difference in your resonance when you are doing what you would like to, because there is a grand difference in somebody who is grumbling through their day, and somebody who smiles from the moment they get up until they go to sleep at night. That frequency serves the world it doesn’t create a negative energy mass that creates more chaos in the community. If everybody were choosing to love himself or herself this world would be so much greater than it already is.
Be kind to yourself, live, love, and be peaceful
Let’s start with looking at the function of the unconscious mind on our actions. Scientists are now finding that at the moment we are conceived our environment is programming us. The absorption of everything in our environment allows us to adapt to our families, and the community that surrounds us as youth. As children we process all this information without a mechanism that allows us to say NO to any information. In essence, we absorb everything around us and we do not have the ability to filter put what we do not want. This information comes in and we have no decision in the matter. This is how we agree to allow our families issues to become hereditary. There used to be a huge controversy in child development about Nature vs. Nurture, and how each one affects us in our lives. But now researchers are beginning to find that our DNA and RNA offer us the gambit of experiences, and it is our mental choices that activate whether or not we get the heart disease our family has suffered for generations, or have the life of abundance that our parents so desperately wanted.
Choice is our ax, and it allows us to eliminate these beliefs. Some of these beliefs are rooted, and some a simple decision will change. We can use techniques like Neuro- Lingustic Programming (NLP) to get the rooted decisions out, or other techniques like Network Spinal Analysis (NSA). There are many other techniques that will work also, but I must state that there are also unconscious decisions that we make.
Let me describe some unconscious beliefs, just so you can get the idea. Say you struggle with money, and you think you have tried everything. This may have come to you as a child. Your parents told you that they didn’t have the money to get the thing you want or they didn’t want to spoil you. So you internalize this message, and as an adult you generalize this message into every part of your life. So you job doesn’t pay enough, and you don’t have enough money for all your bills. Just as Jack Canfield says it’s just “So what,” there is nobody to blame not your parents or yourself or anything. You just have to resolve your concern by making a new decision. Sometimes you need help to get through these changes and making the new decision work for you, but it will definitely be fruitful if you do.
As for the choices that drive our need to be somebody or do something special, we don’t need to do anything. Don’t take this the wrong way, what I mean is that most of us are working jobs that we know are killing us one day at a time, or we go out and pay $130,000 for an education that we will never use. Why do we do this? My answer is that we are asleep to what it is that drives our passion (but not really). You know what it is that you would love to do. My question is why are you not doing it? Is it because you wont have enough money to live if you do, or will your family and friends no longer accept you if you do it? The truth is you don’t or can’t know if you would make enough money, or your family and friends will accept you. I can tell you that when you make the choices that serve you, and not some erroneous zone driven choice that doesn’t serve you, you begin to experience flow.
There are millions of people who are guided by what they think they are supposed to do, and not by what they want to do. Even if you have a family and you think they might be jeopardized by your decisions, then you need to discuss your discomfort with them and make the choices accordingly. Let me say this also it might be noble to stay somewhere you are completely dissatisfied to support your family, but it not fair to them when you create sickness in your life and potentially have to leave the planet. It would be better for you to be happy and broke, than to be completely miserable and unable to enjoy the family you created.
Therefore, take your power back, and live your life, not the one you think you are supposed to live. There is no way now to say I don’t know or what if I fail then fail and do it again differently. How in the world can you find your peace when you are pandering to the stories of what should be, and not what you want. It’s time to make choices today, and see how they affect your future. Look at each potential choice and ask yourself how it contributes to your happiness and goals in that moment. If your choices make you happy today, chances are they will bring more happiness in your future.
I just received a message that I now need to convey. Some of you are thinking that this is pretty self-serving to choose what would make you happy, but I would say that there is a huge difference in your resonance when you are doing what you would like to, because there is a grand difference in somebody who is grumbling through their day, and somebody who smiles from the moment they get up until they go to sleep at night. That frequency serves the world it doesn’t create a negative energy mass that creates more chaos in the community. If everybody were choosing to love himself or herself this world would be so much greater than it already is.
Be kind to yourself, live, love, and be peaceful